My man wants me to have LONG hair.

Long hair was what they wanted so long hair is what they got but I paid the price. My OWN hair. I dated and have had relationships with several men who loved long hair. In fact I have only dated one man who embraced me having my hair however I wanted - long, short or bald.

My self esteem was so low that I felt that because I didn't have long, straight hair I wasn't good enough. I got all the weave, extensions and wigs my money could buy and it made THEM happy. But what about me? I finally came to a point where I was going to do what I needed to do to get myself right. I am not going to lie and say "I don't care about having long hair"  because I do want long hair. However this time the importance is not being placed on getting long hair. I am placing importance on getting healthy hair. I know that length will follow with that.

I began my weight loss journey earlier this year, another thing I've tried and failed at several times. Why? because I wasn't seeing the big picture. I was focused on getting into an outfit instead of becoming healthier to prolong my life and reduce my risk for various illnesses. Once I started eating better, exercising-- guess what?  I started losing the weight and keeping it off!

I won't go to far into this on this entry but nutrition has played a big part in my hair so far. A lot of the dry, brittleness I was suffering from was because I was filling my body with fats and sugars instead of vitamins and nutrients.  

I'm not going to tell you that if your man doesn't like short hair, leave him. However if you do plan on staying with him I believe it's important to make him understand that this is something you are doing to make yourself better. I can say that anyone who really loves you will want you to be the best version of you possible and they will be supportive of you getting there. Support is a crucial in any life change. You can do it with out support but it's a helluva lot easier when you have people on your team - people who want the best for YOU.

In closing it's important to figure out why you're doing what you are doing. If you are getting relaxers (and your hair is healthy) and YOU love it then by all mean do what works for you. BUT if you're on the creamy crack just because that's what your man likes (and it's damaging your hair) then maybe you need to rethink your position on your hair and ultimately YOU.